Have you realize that long term relationships are very difficult to sustain?  After years of dating and courtship, we see these relationships suffer from lot’s of misunderstandings, arguments and problems… which are inevitable to some extend because that’s life.

Couples who do not know how to get over these problems eventually will suffer and the relationship breaks up.  But there are also other reasons why a couple break up because there is no love anymore.  They can’t understand each other anymore or just that one of them is bored in this relationship.

Although, she say that she still loves you deeply but she just wants a breakup?

Let’s say that a few days ago, your girlfriend of just over two years told you that she needs a break; she still says that she loves you and want you to be together some day, but right now she needs some space, a break in order to settle her minds. What should you do?

First of all you should try to ask her the reasons, doesn’t she likes someone else? Maybe she won’t tell you the truth and keep telling you a lie in the face, but let her know that by breaking up, she risked losing you forever.  So if she really cares about you she will be a little worried if this is a game that she is playing and this would mean she would be losing you.

Accept her breakup

You should confront her and tell her that she is right, and you had also felt too trapped just lately and you had considered that it is also best for both of you to have a breakup, even this is not what you want and your heart is broken.

If a girl asks for a breakup in a relationship, you have to give her that.  And, if she still loves you as she said then she will come back to you. If she tells you that she will call you, you’ve better wait until she decides to do it.

Do not try to contact her, or call her, give her the time she needs.

Try not to desperately get her back.  This may backfire as she will feel that you are not giving her space and do not love her enough to respect this decision to breakup and may cause her to draw further away from you and then you will never get her back.  Leave her alone, be busy and she will be sorry for letting you go.

Sometimes it’s not the end yet as she just needs a break from the relationship as opposed to a breakup. Maybe you haven’t been the best boyfriend she ever wanted.  Or maybe she is making new friends, venturing on her own, enjoying the single life, having second thoughts about the relationship or she is outgrowing you; she is having fun right now, but having you as a boyfriend may not really fit into her new life.

She is not quite ready to let you go, but she wants to be able to meet other guys, without resorting to cheating on you.

Another reason why she wants a breakup is that she is not quite ready to let you go, but she wants to be able to meet other guys, without resorting to cheating on you.  Or she just met a new boy that she likes but she is not sure if she wants to stay with him or you.

Go for a date with her if she still calls you for a date sometimes

What happens if she still calls you, asks for a date sometime, but she doesn’t tell you that she wants to get back together again?  The best thing you can do is to show her that you are fine without her, even if your heart is broken.

All girls are the same: when a girl it feels unwanted, is ready to do anything in order to be wanted again; so if she doesn’t come running back it means that she didn’t care too much about you in the first place.

Wait a little longer for her to come back

You have to wait a little longer after her, but not too much.  If she is sure that you love her, she will likes to be in this situation: she feels that she still has a boyfriend when she wants too, and also it is free to find someone new. You may feel this is really unfair, that’s what the relationship is all about.

You do not need me to tell you exactly what to do… but I want you to understand the whole matter of the situation and you just need to TAKE CONTROL of what’s happening in yourself and take the right actions for yourself.

Let go and start dating other girls

So start letting go of your feelings for her right now and start dating other girls in the meantime.  Don’t do this if you just want to “get back” at her.  That’s being childish and immature.  Be a man.

You can start dating again because it is not considerate cheating and you are not a couple anymore, you are separated. It is the only way for you to move on with your life and if by some chance the two of you get back together someday, it will be on your terms. So go out with your own friends and have some fun.

When people decided to take a breakup, what they are really doing is taking time to see if there is somebody more suited for them out there.  So, you must think better because your girlfriend doesn’t care about herself more than she cares about you.

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What is the Real Thing?  What is Real Love all about…?  Listen to the songs, poems, stories and love letters written by others in love.  Your experience may feel unique, but the love experience is really so universal that it is so recognizable:

Love makes you feel strong, generous, and confident – and devoted to the man who brings out those feelings.

Love makes you feel connected to him – body to body, mind to mind, and soul to soul.

Love makes you feel beautiful – inside and out.

Love makes you feel loving.

The capacity to love is inborn in us.  It’s part of our human nature.  We can choose to give it, or not.  We can let it grow, or not.  It’s ours.  If one romance doesn’t work, we can give our love again.  It’s ours.

If you’ve never felt real love, let me assure you that you will know it when you feel it.

And even though I’m saying that we should settle for no less than falling wildly in love, I’m not suggesting that we are, or should be, hopeless romantics.  Just the opposite.  Sure, women read more romantic novels than men.  But, in fact, women are not infatuated more easily or more often than men but women are breathtakingly practical.

Question: If a man or woman had all the qualities you desired, would you marry this person if you were not in love with her or him?

Answer: It is found that 65% of men said they wouldn’t marry if they were not “in love”, but 76% of the women said they would marry the person.

Women didn’t have to be “in love” with a guy to marry him – they just had to find him lovable.  Nonetheless, women are not wrong in believing that their infatuations are more intense than those of men.  Infatuation is always and only a stage of feeling, not a final state. Women sometimes sadly, sometimes happily, recognize that this is so… but not until it’s over.

So, how do I find real love?

Find one lovable person who finds you lovable in return.  It’s a numbers game.  It’s about timing.  It’s about self-respect and zero tolerence for anyone who doesn’t treat you with respect.  It’s about knowing when it’s not you, and then what to do.  It’s about recognizing when to have fun and when to run, when to meet him halfway and when to say “no way.”  it’s about no self-blame and no man-made pain.

After you have found Mr. Imperfect but perfectly Lovable, love him.  Love him because loving feels so good, and it’s so good for you.  It’s a natural human capacity, and the more you use it, the more it will grow.  If it isn’t appreciated and reciprocated, find someone who will love your love. And while you are looking, don’t deprive yourself of the joy of loving.  make a list of your loved ones, and make sure that you’re on that list, too.

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When someone that you love breaks up with you, it is not easy to handle the rejection, hurt and sadness and even depression and despair.  I know you miss your ex and just feeling “What should I do to get my ex back?” will get you on your feet to try so many ways to get him or her back.

But, what exactly should I do to get my ex back?  What exactly should you do to get your ex back?  There are many websites, books, blogs, forums and even courses designed to answer the question (I have listed the Best Relationship Guides here), that would help you.

But, many times it is a matter picking yourself up YOURSELF and wanting to be helped.  You attitude makes a BIG difference.

I’m not going to say it’s easy, or it’s pretty common sense but, taking simple baby steps could go a long way towards healing your relationship.

If you are still preoccupied with your lost relationship, wondering “what should I do to get my ex back?” then follow some of these simple advices.  You will give yourself the best chance of getting back together with that special someone.

1. Be honest and do not play games.

Unfortunately many people resort to this during breakups because it gives them a sense of power.  Sometimes your ex just want you to think that he or she doesn’t care anymore, for whatever reason ie. not to hurt you further, but this ploy is not going to work.

Some people play games where they pretend to be dating someone else, or they pretend to be in love with someone else. This is a ploy to make the ex jealous.  While it does work now and then, other times it makes the breakup permanent because it backfires.

Your ex could be so jealous at the thought of you being with someone else that they want you back.  Or they could decide that since you moved on so quickly, you don’t really care about them anyway.  You have no way of knowing which way this ploy will work until it’s too late.

These are some of the games people play.  From my point of view, It’s manipulating and if you think you are in control, in the midst of strong emotions, you are not… because you never know how your ex will control his or her emotions… and we have seen bad repercussions on this.

Being honest works.  Get away by yourself from the emotional roller coaster and decide how you are going to proceed on in this relationship.  Be honest about the situation and when the right time comes, let your ex know about your feelings.

2. Don’t be violent or mean.

In any relationship, sometimes anger around a breakup makes us act more viciously than we normally might.  Even if you’re hurt, the fact that you want to know, ‘What should I do to get my ex back?” shows that you still care and love your partner and are ready to forgive that person.  If you couldn’t, you wouldn’t want your ex back, move on and don’t plot for a revenge.

Sometimes it’s good to put yourself in the other person’s shoe and think how he or she is feeling now.  Hold your tongue before you start and argument or nagging.  Work very hard at controlling your anger and hurt.  Try forgiving and forget.  Remember your love for your partner and remember love is patient and kind.  And, love forgives… love keeps no record of wrongs.

3.  Find out the root cause of relationship breakdown

It’s easy to put the blame on your ex for causing the breakup.  Try to find out what exactly is the root cause of the relationship breakdown.  Has the problem been recurring over and over again until your partner just could not take it any longer?  Then, if you really want to get your ex back… then seek help to change.

Is it infidelity?  Has your ex been seeing someone and you blame yourself?  Has it been a communication breakdown?  Was it due to an external reason like family or friends objections or jealousy?  Find out the root cause and see if you could resolve it.

No relationship is perfect.  It is healthy for a relationship to go through some rough patches once in a while.  It is part of strengthening the relationship if you could resolve the problem. Take it positively, people need to learn to love, to give and take.

4. Be on your best behavior

“What should I do to get my ex back?”. Be on your best behavior and make your ex remember what drew them to you in the first place. Your ex will remember your good points and will miss them.  Then you’ll have a better chance of being able to get back together with your ex.

Recover back the attraction that you had when you started courting your ex.  My guess is that if you still think about getting back with your ex and taking the trouble to do so… you are still in love with him or her.  Unless, he or she feels differently about you, you have a very high chance of getting your ex back.

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When you become convinced that your dating relationship is not what you want, breaking up with your partner is by far one of the most difficult thing to do if both of you have been together for a long time or have been very close.  How you do this may affect the chances of having this person as a friend in the future, or you may loose this person’s friendship althogether.

Unless your partner had a negative influence on your life, you will probably want to maintain his or her friendship.  These are some guidelines for a graceful breakup:

1. Don’t lead someone on when you want out

Sometimes it is easier to continue to be together than facing the situation because you do not want to to hurt the other person.  After a while, you find that your partner begins to treat you badly (being scarcastic, inconsiderate, unthoughtful, being selfish and even abusive), hoping you will get the hint and want out of the relationship just as badly.

Prolonging the pain by treating a person disrespectfully is a mean thing to do.

2. Break up face-to-face

The breakup will easier to accept if you at least have the guts to face the person you are breaking up with.  Facing the person shows respect.  Breaking up over the telephone, where you can discuss the situation together is the next best way.

It may be the 21st century, but some people resort to sending text message to breakup with their partner or even telling they want a divorce is downright irresponsible and unthoughtful.

Avoid a “Dear Mark” letter, and do not ask someone to do your dirty work for you.  Can you imagine how it makes the other person feel when he or she hears about your plans to breakup from another person?

3.  Don’t say too much

Be truthful – but not brutally truthful.  You do not have to try and justify why you want to breakup by giving a breakup speech on “100 reasons to breakup with you”.  Many of your reasons may appear shallow to your partner.  And, it’s too easy to get sidetracked and argue over insignificant matters.  Just clearly state your reason for wanting a breakup in such a way that arguing is unnecessary:

“I’m no longer happy in this relationship.”

“I feel our differences are too great to have a lasting relationship.”

“I have a desire to date other people.”

“I feel I am too immature to settle down into a steady relationship.”

Note: Each of these reasons started with the word “I”.  That brings me to the next point.

4.  Give “I-messages” not “you-messages”

An “I-message” means the sender is taking responsibility for the breakup of the relationship, while a “you-message” casts blame on the other person.  Notice the difference between, “I am not happy when we are together and I often go home feeling hurt”, versus “You say things that hurt my feelings”.

5.  Be thoughtful

You can cushion your breakup by telling the other person what the relationship mean to you.  mention a few of the most admirable traits of the person, “I love your sense of humor. I want to be your friend, but I don’t want to be dating with you”.

It may be thoughtful to warn your steady about a possible breakup.  But, don’t keep threatening and then do nothing about it. No one enjoys a yo-yo existence – up one day and down the next.  Be decisive.  In the long run it is the least painful way.

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If you want to get back together with your ex, it is important to really know why you need to be together.  In those first few days you may have a thousand reasons to get back together. You may think:

• I’ll die without him.
• He was my whole life.
• I’ll never find anyone as good as her.
• She was the best thing that ever happened to me.
• I can’t be happy alone.
• It will all be different next time.
• I will change everything wrong that I did before.

We need to ask ourselves if these are just lies we tell ourselves because we feel desperate to get the ex back in your life.  In the midst of emotional chaos, you need to truly be honest about yourself and do a bit of soul searching.

Guys if you need time to be alone… go be alone.  Ladies, share with a close friend to try to sort out your feelings and thoughts.  But, ultimately, you have to decide if this would make you truly happy by getting back together with your ex.  Are you both compatible?  Are there character differences between yourselves that show that both of you just “are not meant to be together for life”?

It’s always easy after a breakup to only think of the good times.  It’s important that you try to be completely objective and think of both the good and bad times.

Some points that you need to consider before you decide to get back together with your ex…

1. Were you happy most of the time you were together?

Many couples throw away a great relationship because of one or two bad experiences together. It’s important to know that all relationships have ups and downs. If you’re happy together the majority of the time, it’s probably worth trying to work out the relationship again. If you’re seeking a perfect partner, you may end up alone and bitter – because we all have faults.

2. Was the breakup a rash decision?

For some people, breaking up is done impulsively as a result of a specific problem instead of something that spans the whole relationship. Maybe you haven’t really tried to solve the problem. In this case, it may be worth taking another look at your relationship before kissing the whole thing goodbye. After all, you’ve invested time and emotions into this person.

3. Do you share similar values and goals?

Does your ex want most of the same things you want out of life? Is it possible that you can accept some of his or her negative qualities in order to have the big picture of what you want?  Are your goals in life conflicting or needs adjustments. If what is important in life are not so with your ex, you may have thing again if the relationship is meant to be.

Did I fall in love with someone totally unsuitable to make me happy?

It is possible that you have managed to fall in love with someone who is totally unsuited to making you happy long term because you are incompatible. If this turns out to be the case, then it’s time to think about how to end the relationship amicably in a way that allows you to keep your dignity intact and not do either of you any lasting damage.

Breaking up is not the end of the world

In my readings, experts will say that “don’t give up the forest for a single tree” or “don’t give up the fishes in the ocean because you found a goldfish”… Really, you need to get out there and face your feelings.

Probably, when you are really ready to give up, then, it could be time to patch up or start a new again.  Life is that interesting.  Cheer up!

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Guys, I have not left you out… this is 5 ways to win your ex girlfriend back.  How to be that “talk dark and handsome” beau that your ex girlfriend has always thought about you.  Chances are that she IS STILL THINKING THAT ABOUT YOU!  So, read on…

First, I just want to stress that the separation or breakup does happen in any healthy relationship, but it does not necessarily mean that it will be forever. Here are five steps that will allow you to subtlety let your ex girlfriend know that you ARE still interested in her life, so that you can potentially rekindle romance in the right away.

1. After give your ex girlfriend some time to be by herself, try to contact her subtlely.

Try to get your friends to help you out in this.  “Arrange” some sort of get-together during parties, or during a baseball game to bump to her. Get contact with your ex in a non obtrusive and non demanding manner and keep the conversation cordial.  Remind her subtle through your conversations, about the good times with her.  And, let her discover that you are still attractive and have a great sense of humor.  Making her laugh, sets her to be comfortable with you and do break down the awkwardness of ex couple coming back together again.

2. Be professional about it if she is dating another guy

If she is seeing someone else, do not fret.  Don’t go on a rampage to get back at the new guy… even if the guy is someone you know.  Nothing is lost.  Don’t fret about it.  Just be very professional about this.  As much as you want her to be exclusively your own, she has all the right to be seeing someone else.  Nothing is lost if it’s just a “rebound” relationship with a new guy.  Remember… you always stand a chance.  If you love her unconditionally, you would want the best for her… even the best guy for her.

3. Keeping in touch or drop her a text message or an email.

If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, try reaching out to her. Playing too hard to get is not the best way to approach this, though communication should be scaled back. Reach out to her and let her know subtlety that you are still interested in being a part of her life.

If you do not find casual, easy going methods of communication with your ex, you will never be able to get her back. Staying in touch is absolutely vital, but keep it to casual messages like “Hey, what’s up?” rather than overwhelming her inbox with love poetry.

4. If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, stay away from other girls.

Sure, she may be understanding enough to let it slide if you begin to peruse other “prospects”, but if you want to get your girlfriend back, stay away from other ladies.

Use this subtly because, effectively, you have broken up with your ex girlfriend, and you could potentially start to go on dates with other girls.  If you start dating again, there is a possibility that you could find a new love that you never know.

The thing about guys, is that you go around dating different girls one after another after a breakup.  And, this is a SURE NO NO. PERIOD.  Guys… don’t do this.  Try to find new ways to spend your time.  Get away with time spend with your family, friends.  Stay away from single dating until you settle your emotions and are ready again for a new relationship.

5. Remember the important things.

Part of learning how to get your ex girlfriend back means treating your girl like a princess. One of the easiest ways to do this is to show her that you care by remembering the most important anniversaries and dates in her life. Send her a card on her birthday, and let her know you’re thinking about her in a harmless and positive way.

There is no exact process or science to the process of learning how to get your ex girlfriend back, but there are some pretty clear cut suggestions out there that will steer you in the right direction. Obviously maintaining contact and communication is absolutely vital to the rekindling process, but do not over do it, otherwise you may scare her away.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your ex back.

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If you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to learn ways ways for a woman to attract your man.  I will try to lay down some guidelines here.  Try it out and let me know if you have success.  All the best…

Here’s how to attract your ex boyfriend back. You need to understand what men generally love in women. You might be surprised to know that although looks count as one of the techniques to get your ex back, it is actually more than what’s underneath your clothes that matters.

1. Men love women who can present themselves differently every time.

Men are usually resigned to a single look everyday – all they can really do anyway is change their clothes, and that’s it. That’s makes women different. Women have different techniques to seduce a man, through her chameleon-like appearance that can leave him weak in his knees.

This is a hot tip: It will amaze your ex to know that you can change your look from laid-back to spicy-hot; from Ms. Homemaker, to Glamor queen.  It’s the hair – the way it can smell like country pear for days, the way it can be up in a bun one minute then, raging with curls the next minute. So are those clothes, those killer heels, and the lovely scent a woman gives off that just make your ex boyfriend intrigued and lost for words.  Make your ex boyfriend STARE back in disbelief and amazement. Let your ex boyfriend know that you can be amazingly hot and attractive!

2. There are a lot of ways for women to attract men with just the sight of their body, no matter the size.

It is the woman’s physical signals that attract men to their body (no matter the size – pun intended ). The sway of the hips, the feminine arch of her lower back, how her lips move, how her long legs look like in killer heels – these are all enough for a man to follow you with his gaze anywhere.

The male attraction to the female body is because of the instinct to reproduce – not just pure sex: long legs are a sign of fertility and youth, as well as rounded hips that are proportioned to a small waist. While round eyes bring out the protective instinct in men.

3. Men love how a woman just knows how to attract men with her affection.

Men just love cuddling and snuggling with the gentlest creature God bestowed upon them. Women are tough, yet delicate. They can endure the pain of child birth, yet have a hard time lifting the sofa chair while house cleaning. A man loves it that a woman can make him feel needed at times, and always be there when he needs her but he’s just too proud to admit it – a feeling booster that doesn’t crash his ego.

4. Men love how women seem to see the small things – the teeniest details that men usually miss.

They make men see the world in a different perspective, even if lacking in logic. Women can cry over the silliest things yet make deep sense over it, and laugh endlessly over a serious matter without appearing rude.

5. More than the physical and relational ways for women to attract men, men just can’t help but admire a woman’s wisdom – which is part logic, part emotion.

Though women may not be making the right decisions every time – and they know it – they stand by their decision like it’s the truest fact there ever was.

There you have it: 5 ways to attract your ex boyfriend back with all the techniques laid out for you to try. Remember, no crying back to him… , no whining, no pity party, just undeniably attractive and beautiful.  Remember always lift your head high!

Good luck… and God bless!

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If you are in despair and breaking down… wipe your tears off your eyes. And, just listen up…

If your ex is dating someone else… let him or her be. Perhaps he / she is dating someone else to get over you. Does this make sense?

This is called a rebound relationship but this keeps people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They’re used to help people move on from a real love.

That’s the key to getting your ex back. She’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.

So, what must you do now?

First, it does not matter whose fault it is whether it is your or hers.  It does not matter who is right or wrong or who called the relationship off or in fact, who wins…  What matters is that you have a real love.

Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

Do you really love him?  Do you really love her? If she is in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship.   If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.”  If you were into music and politics, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.

The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons. Her attention is still focused on you even when she’s with the new guy. And, it gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for.

Let me give you a tip:  Most relationships thrives on differences and not things common. That’s why we are made man and woman, strong and weak, beautiful and “ugly”… (well, I mean manly).  But, it’s just God’s way of letting us complementing our partners and making the most of the love relationship in life.

Getting back to your current relationship, if she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that she was missing something in your relationship. You can use the time she is with the rebound man to improve yourself.

Let the rebound relationship run its course.   Because, as she spends time with the new guy, she will start to see the flaws in him.  After a month or so with rebound man, you will start to look pretty good.

That is why you don’t want to crawl back to her right away.

Accept the breakup… OK, ok don’t freak out.  This is not the end of the world.  You can do this.  Let your love prevails (if you really love her).

Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship.  When she is ready to make a move, be magnanimous.  Don’t take revenge… Welcome her back graciously.  Be a new and improved boyfriend, but don’t do the chasing.

Learn to love, to forgive, to really love unconditionally.  This is where your love is put to the test.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

• Do not try to convince her that you are the love of her life. Let her discover this on her own.
• Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry. Once. But move on. She knows the real reason she loves you.
• Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who she fell in love with.
• Don’t try to make her see that it wasn’t your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault.
• Never, ever beg her to take you back.

When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship.  You can make up with her and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you.

Take care… and talk to you soon.  God bless!

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Are you facing with a problem NOT recognizing a great relationship when you have one… and instead, only “realizing it you had a great one, when it is gone” and you are constantly trying to ‘make up’ for problems and breakup that took place?

If this sounds even a little bit like you, then you’ll be relieved to know that it’s actually a common problem that many women have in their relationships and that, once you have equipped yourself with the accurate information that you need, you can quite simply ‘get over’ the problem, move on, and begin experiencing the kind of refreshing, fulfilling, effortless relationship that you deserve.

A good place to start:

I always meet with with women who share that something is absolutely wrong with them and they always tend to attract the wrong kind of guy who after getting what they want, treats them like dirt (or maybe not quite but half of it).  And, they seem to get in the cycle, time and again… They just can’t figure how to get the good guys.

And you know what? I think you might be surprised at just how many other women are experiencing that very same issue – when you know something is not quite right, but you just don’t seem to know what it is!

But, I find that sometimes women, actually behave or do those that UNKNOWINGLY that actually drive men away…

Are You A Yes Girl?

Do you try to to please your guy really hard that sometimes, it seems to backfire and instead push him away even further?  When he is bored, becomes aloof, or backs off a little, you try a little harder to win back his love. Is it possible to give or I should say give in to him too much that he is taking advantage of your love?

There are a LOT of women out there whose sole idea about creating a great relationship can be summed up so:

‘If I just try hard enough, and put the relationship first, and take really good care of him, he’ll love me more.’

Oh No! Look, here’s the deal. Quality men don’t actually want ‘yes women’. They want a woman with a BACKBONE. Men don’t want you to drop everything for them. They want you to stand up for yourself and have your own opinions and be OK with saying ‘no’ if that’s how you feel. Men loves women who gives them suggestions, ideas and helps them in life. If you have heard this phrase,

Behind every great man there is a great woman – an English proverb, and as such, anonymous.

Stop feeling that to save your relationship or get your ex back, you need to earn his love. Get this advice women: In a relationship, YOU and your feelings come first, always and forever; and you should not be giving any more to anyone, or any relationship, if it you don’t feel comfortable or is against your values to do so.

Remember, follow your instincts. Sometimes, your instincts can save you. So if you feel like you’re overcompensating, or that you’re giving ‘too much’, you probably are! Take a step back and focus on  YOURSELF FIRST … THEN you can pay some attention to him. Period.

Are You Always Trying To Make Out By Excessive Confessing?

Did you know that, when you’re with a man, there is actually NO good time to start the self-pity-talk and you start to confess about something that you have not done or not being good enough?

Instead of just allowing feelings of warmth and closeness to wrap you both up tacitly in a nice fuzzy blanket of relaxation and peacefulness, some women instead decide that it’s time to ‘unveil’ their ‘true selves’, complete with stories from past relationships or about the ex, etc.

It is not going to bring you closer together, it’s just going to portray you as a needy, insecure woman who’s making a thinly-veiled attempt to get his approval and validation.

Save it for your friends and family. Your guy doesn’t need to hear about how you wish your stomach was flatter or that you wish your legs were longer or that you have all these ‘deep, dark secrets’ that you just can’t wait to douse him with.

It’s OK that you are handling your insecurities, that’s OK, go ahead and feel the feelings … but just be easy and cool about it.

Stop thinking about the past, and bring your attention into the here-and-now and expecting your guy to always be in the encouraging mode and understand.

Stop thinking about YOU, and get interested in HIM.

Focus on what’s happening around you, what he’s doing, what he’s saying, how you can offer him advice, encourage him… By giving of your self and not taking, you will find that your self thoughts will soon diminish and disappear altogether … and by giving out and helping of yourself, you may have indirectly helped yourself overcome your sense of insecurities and lack of self esteem!

Are You Loving Yourself First Instead Of Expecting Him To Love You First?

When you meet with your love of your life, do you expect him to be responsible to make you feel loved and accepted all the time?

If you are needing someone else to give you something FUNDAMENTAL like acceptance, approval, and LOVE, before you’re willing and able to do it for yourself, then there is something really wrong with your attitude!

This attitude is going to prevent you from ever attracting and keeping a really top-notch man. He will not want to be responsible for this need in your life because he feels sooner or later, you will eventually wind up holding HIM responsible for your lack of happiness and love.

You’ve got to be able to accept yourself FIRST.

Needing a man to approve of you, needing him to validate you, and NEEDING his love to ‘be happy’ are all signs that you are a woman who is unable to fulfill herself and that, sooner or later, you are going to bring those burdens to bear on him and on the relationship.

Smart men aren’t eager to involve themselves with women who are NEEDY or CLINGY. They want to know that you’re going to be happy whether you’re single or ’spoken for’, because only THEN will you be able to be the kind of woman who’s actually worth investing in.

Truly, a woman true worth is the ability to be an asset to her man rather than be a liability. Every aspect of how you think about yourself and how you treat yourself is SAYING SOMETHING to other people, and will help to determine the nature of your relationships with men.

Be good to yourself. God bless!

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Do you know how to keep a woman happy?  Guys, if you are lost on how to keep your woman happy or save a rocky relationship, here’s some advice to spice up your relationship.  Read on.  Women, this article is not mainly for men to learn how to keep their woman happy. Similarly, you can keep your man happy by following these methods:

Be Confident In Yourself

The first advice to spice up a relationship is to always be confident in yourself.  Men, if you think you are not good looking enough for your beautiful girl, don’t think that way.  I find many men will start to show off their insecurities or lack of self esteem through their behavior, after a period of time in their relationship with the woman they love.  They start feel jealous and insecure when other men talk casually with their woman.  They feel possessive and lack confidence even though they have a beautiful, sexy woman, beside them.  Ultimately, by behaving this way, men are indirectly pushing their woman away… sometimes for good.

A confident man is the sexiest beast around.  Have you ever noticed that some of the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest women?  That is because they display a level of confidence that is more attractive to women than physical looks.

Be Mindful To Details And Little Things

Next, you should be mindful to details and little things. Keep a tab on little details that are important in your relationship.  Sometimes, this means offering to pull her chair at dinner tables.  Or being courteous by saying “thank you” when she does something nice.  Or you can be mindful to take her car in for an oil change or by offering her a pack of Jelly Bellies (her favorite flavors) if she feels like snacking.  Sometimes men think in terms of “grand gestures,” when it is the little things that add up to long relationships.

Find out what is her interests and your common interests.  It’s great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest.  Never forget his or her birthday or any special dates.  Through these small little things that you remember, it shows that you care about her and she’ll know you are one in a million.

Remember To Shower With Appreciation

Whether you are a man or woman, you partner loves to be appreciated from time to time.  If you take him or her for granted, not for long, you may land up in an argument because she will be thinking you are really not thoughtful and always thinks about yourself.  From time to time, let your partner know that you value him or her.

Do Not Ogle Another Man Or Woman

It is definitely not wise to ogle at another sexy women when your woman is watching!  Women think that you are comparing her to the woman you are looking at.  Women, do not ogle other man when you are with your man.  Even more a no, no is you always talk about your ex and wonderful your ex was and reminiscece about the incident.  This will push your partner away because they will feel that you are comparing and prefering other man or women than you.  So, minimize the ogling or praising your ex, especially when she’s around.

Men, Have a Sense of Humor. Try To Make Your Girlfriend Laugh

You should try to make her laugh.  While men list good looks at the top of the things they need in a woman, women list a man’s sense of humor.  So, if you want the relationship to last or even save your relationship, keep her laughing.

Remember To Keep Yourself Groomed

Once you get the girl, it may seem like you don’t have to try anymore – at least as far as grooming goes.  And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt to be charming and handsome.  So, shave on weekends.  Keep in touch with the latest fashion trends for men.  In short, don’t get sloppy just because you’ve landed her.  You can “unland” her just as easily.

This goes the same with women.  If your relationship is starting to be boring, dress yourself pretty and let him know you are proud to be that attractive girl in his life.

Learn To Integrate With Circle Of Friends And Family

Your girl is going to need to know that you can integrate with her circle of family and friends.  A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over.  So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents.  A woman relies on her social network to validate her relationship choices.  Make an effort.

Always Be Considerate Of Her Feelings

You should always be considerate of her feelings.  Women are less stable than guys.  Part of this is hormonal.  When you are sensitive to her mood, you won’t get on her bad side.

Have Some Common Sense

It obvious that we need to rely on our common sense not to drive our sweetheart away from us.  Sometimes, it is something you said that is not appropriate because you are a guy.  Or it you are a habitual latecomer, try to change your habit and arrive on time. Or you could be spending your time and money on your “toys” than on your girl. Or perhaps, you are always busy at work and forget about calling her.  Have some common sense to be thoughtful and it could save your relationship from ruin.

Be Open To Trying New Things

Finally, be open to trying new things.  At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss.  But, after a while, these things become routine.  If you find that your relationship has fallen into a rut, shake things up.  Try something new.  It will go a long way to keeping your relationship healthy.

I hope you would try these ten methods and that your love life will turned around and you might just save your ailing relationship. Look out to save your relationship with this methods wherever you can and let me know if you need any help or other advice.

Keep loving and God bless!

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