Have you realize that long term relationships are very difficult to sustain?  After years of dating and courtship, we see these relationships suffer from lot’s of misunderstandings, arguments and problems… which are inevitable to some extend because that’s life.

Couples who do not know how to get over these problems eventually will suffer and the relationship breaks up.  But there are also other reasons why a couple break up because there is no love anymore.  They can’t understand each other anymore or just that one of them is bored in this relationship.

Although, she say that she still loves you deeply but she just wants a breakup?

Let’s say that a few days ago, your girlfriend of just over two years told you that she needs a break; she still says that she loves you and want you to be together some day, but right now she needs some space, a break in order to settle her minds. What should you do?

First of all you should try to ask her the reasons, doesn’t she likes someone else? Maybe she won’t tell you the truth and keep telling you a lie in the face, but let her know that by breaking up, she risked losing you forever.  So if she really cares about you she will be a little worried if this is a game that she is playing and this would mean she would be losing you.

Accept her breakup

You should confront her and tell her that she is right, and you had also felt too trapped just lately and you had considered that it is also best for both of you to have a breakup, even this is not what you want and your heart is broken.

If a girl asks for a breakup in a relationship, you have to give her that.  And, if she still loves you as she said then she will come back to you. If she tells you that she will call you, you’ve better wait until she decides to do it.

Do not try to contact her, or call her, give her the time she needs.

Try not to desperately get her back.  This may backfire as she will feel that you are not giving her space and do not love her enough to respect this decision to breakup and may cause her to draw further away from you and then you will never get her back.  Leave her alone, be busy and she will be sorry for letting you go.

Sometimes it’s not the end yet as she just needs a break from the relationship as opposed to a breakup. Maybe you haven’t been the best boyfriend she ever wanted.  Or maybe she is making new friends, venturing on her own, enjoying the single life, having second thoughts about the relationship or she is outgrowing you; she is having fun right now, but having you as a boyfriend may not really fit into her new life.

She is not quite ready to let you go, but she wants to be able to meet other guys, without resorting to cheating on you.

Another reason why she wants a breakup is that she is not quite ready to let you go, but she wants to be able to meet other guys, without resorting to cheating on you.  Or she just met a new boy that she likes but she is not sure if she wants to stay with him or you.

Go for a date with her if she still calls you for a date sometimes

What happens if she still calls you, asks for a date sometime, but she doesn’t tell you that she wants to get back together again?  The best thing you can do is to show her that you are fine without her, even if your heart is broken.

All girls are the same: when a girl it feels unwanted, is ready to do anything in order to be wanted again; so if she doesn’t come running back it means that she didn’t care too much about you in the first place.

Wait a little longer for her to come back

You have to wait a little longer after her, but not too much.  If she is sure that you love her, she will likes to be in this situation: she feels that she still has a boyfriend when she wants too, and also it is free to find someone new. You may feel this is really unfair, that’s what the relationship is all about.

You do not need me to tell you exactly what to do… but I want you to understand the whole matter of the situation and you just need to TAKE CONTROL of what’s happening in yourself and take the right actions for yourself.

Let go and start dating other girls

So start letting go of your feelings for her right now and start dating other girls in the meantime.  Don’t do this if you just want to “get back” at her.  That’s being childish and immature.  Be a man.

You can start dating again because it is not considerate cheating and you are not a couple anymore, you are separated. It is the only way for you to move on with your life and if by some chance the two of you get back together someday, it will be on your terms. So go out with your own friends and have some fun.

When people decided to take a breakup, what they are really doing is taking time to see if there is somebody more suited for them out there.  So, you must think better because your girlfriend doesn’t care about herself more than she cares about you.

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